How to Talk to Your Partner About ANR (2024)

Adult breastfeeding is an intimate and personal experience that involves both partners communicating effectively with each other. Here are some of the best approaches to asking your partner about trying it:

Start by initiating a conversation: Begin by bringing up the topic in a casual, non-threatening way. You can start by mentioning something you saw online or heard from a friend and ask for their opinion on it. This will help create an open environment where your partner feels comfortable sharing their thoughts with you.

Be clear about what you want: Make sure to be direct in expressing your interest in trying adult breastfeeding. Avoid using ambiguous language that might confuse your partner or make them uncomfortable. Be specific and honest about what you’re looking for, while also being open to their feedback and concerns.

Give your partner time to process: Adult breastfeeding can be a sensitive topic, so it’s important to give your partner space and time to think about it. Don’t pressure them into making a decision right away or assume that they will automatically say yes. Instead, provide reassurance that you understand if this isn’t something they feel comfortable trying at the moment.

Overall, asking your partner to try adult breastfeeding requires open communication and mutual respect for each other’s boundaries and desires. By following these approaches, you can create a space where both of you feel safe expressing yourselves and exploring new experiences together.

What's The Best Approach?

For men, the best approach we've seen is to include the fact that women can induce without pregnancy and that starting with dry sucking at first is okay. Other women have written about their experiences and how enjoyable it is.

For women, it is perfectly okay to let your partner nurse. It doesn't make him less manly; He may even find it arousing (warning:NSFW).

How do I convince my partner/spouse to do this?

You can share with them what the fascination is for you, what it means to you, why you want to try it, and the benefits you think it would bring to the relationship. Then you need to listen and hear them out in return. You can’t force them to enter into an ANR.

Excerpt from an UncoverIntimacy.com article.

See also this discussion, an article on encouraging sexual openness in relationships, our page and an external article on acknowledging the connection between breastfeeding and arousal, and Lifehacker.com's Guide to Sharing Kinks. Vice also has a very good article about how to disclose kinks if you are in a relationship

More Information

Some couples practice ABF in order to strengthen their relationship. Read for yourself a few ANR testimonials and stories or watch videos of couples practicing adult breastfeeding. (warning:NSFW)

Reach out to others by using our ANR/ABF online communities list page to seek others who are in this lifestyle.

See the Inducing Lactation Resources page if you're interested in starting lactation without a pregnancy, for an ANR, or for your partner.

Frequently Asked Questions About ANRs/Adult Breastfeeding